Family is considered to be the fundamental building block of society. But looking today, there seems to be a problem with it. Now that society is moving from being there for each other to a self-centred existence, family in many parts of the world has lost its traditional meaning. A family is supposed to be a permanent structure and something you can always rely on when you need support. In many parts of the world, however, this structure has started falling apart. Now that a person’s needs come before that of the family, divorce has become a common phenomenon. Marriage is what starts a family, but marriage is losing the respect and boundaries it once had. Divorce occurs because marriage isn’t seen as the sacred bond that joins two souls together anymore. It’s rare to find someone who still sees marriage for what it actually is. In India, in the old days, marriages were arranged! The bride and groom didn’t even see each other, let alone know each other before marriage, yet they had respect for the decision that their parents made and they had respect for marriage and what it stands for. They compromised, adjusted and found ways to make sure that the marriage lasts. But these days, since divorce isn’t seen as such a difficult thing, it seems to always be in the back of the mind of the people who get married; they believe that if they find it too problematic to make the marriage work, they just decide to go court and get divorced. Divorce it seems has become the easier option. Marry the person you love, and then if you feel like it’s going nowhere and you get bored, get a divorce! And divorces occur despite the fact that children are already present. Is this really what our society is becoming? Is our need so great, that we can walk over anyone to get what we want? Have we forgotten compassion and love? Nothing is impossible, NOTHING. If you get problems in your marriage, you must have married that person for some good reason, right? So when you have problems in your marriage or relationship, never give up, keep trying. Think of the good times and try to figure out the root cause of the problem and mend things, instead of ending that relationship or marriage in a haste. If you give up without giving your all and trying making it work with all your strength and patience, you never know what could have been.
From experience, I can say that, if you give your 100% and the other person, with whom you are in a relationship with, isn’t willing to understand what you are going through, or trying to help in making things work, then yes it’s not really worth your time. You deserve better, and trust me, you will be so much more aware of what you deserve and who you really want to be. But of course, if there are kids involved, try your very best to make it work, don’t let your kids into thinking that love and marriage are just painful and not worth it because love is definitely the most beautiful power on this planet.
